Things gay guys like
The 5 best things about being a gay man
Growing up, I spent so much time and drive trying to hide who I was because I bought into mainstream society’s beliefs about what it means to be gay.
I saw myself as less than, weak, disgusting, defective, and simply not wonderful enough. I constantly measured myself up against unbent men, and my internal belief system told me I wasn’t adequate.
After many years of working through my own shame around being gay and processing my own internalized homophobia, I began to observe the light within me. People always told me I had this beam, but I didn’t consent it to shine because shame told me to dim it.
A lot of this work came down to me accepting myself for exactly who I am, and an aspect of that was creature a gay man.
I now see being gay as a beautiful gift I have been given. The gift of being diverse and finding strength in that difference. The present of being able to pull me out of many years of suffering and redeem myself as someone who I am proud of today.
Being homosexual to me is a small part of who I am. It makes up an aspect of my self-concept, and in certain environments, it may play a larger role, but it’s just one part of who I am.
However,
What Gay Men Should Assume in a Relationship
Some homosexual men put up with a lot in their relationships. Their long-term partners will aggressively flirt with other men in front of them, go dwelling with a guy from the bar without any forewarning, sleep with ex-lovers without gaining consent from their current lover, or brag to their current boyfriends about the quality of their sex with strangers. Ouch.
Here’s what I find most concerning. Some gay men don’t notice they have a right to be upset about these behaviors. They’ll seek me why they sense so jealous and how can I help them let go of their jealousy. They think that the gay community believes in sexual freedom and it isn’t cool or manly to object to their partner’s sexual behavior.
In other words, they experience shame for experiencing wound by the actions of their long-term partners.
Heterosexual couples get plenty of social support for treating their partners with respect when it comes to sex. Outrage is the characteristic social response when friends are told about destitute relationship behavior among direct people. When gay men tell the same heartbreaking stories they are less likely to get a big response. LGBTQ
1.) Throw Shade
Throwing shade is basically insulting someone in a clever way, sometimes so clever that the person you are disrespectful is not even attentive of the fact that you are insulting them. Apart from eating and sleeping, it’s the favorite activity of gays. Gays love word play and always like to test others to prove that they are the wittiest one in the bunch. And sometimes being a bitch to another person can be extremely therapeutic- as long as the insult is funny and not straight up cruel.
2.) Argue over who the best female pop-star is
If there’s anything gay guys take more seriously than a sale at J Crew, it’s pop tune. Gays love to debate over who the leading female pop singer is and how much they like you depends greatly on which pop stars you like. I can’t tell you how often I’ve had to get part in the Lady Gaga vs. Madonna debate and how many times I’ve wanted to lunge across a table and bitch slap a hoe for saying that Beyonce is overrated. To place it simply, if we don’t like the equal singers, we are lovely much incompatible as friends and I will regard you one of my many nemeses.
3.) Hook Up
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10 Things Gay Men Should Discuss
Top 10 Things Queer Men Should Discuss with Their Healthcare Provider
Following are the health issues GLMA’s healthcare providers have identified as most commonly of concern for gay men. While not all of these items apply to everyone, it’s wise to be aware of these issues.
1. Come Out to Your Primary Healthcare Provider
In order to provide you with the best concern possible, your primary protect provider should know you are gay. Knowing your sexual orientation and sexual behaviors will help your healthcare provider offer the correct preventative screenings, and order the appropriate tests. If your provider does not seem comfortable with you as a same-sex attracted man, find another source. You can consult the LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory for aide finding a provider.
2. Reducing the Risk of Getting or Transmitting HIV
Many men who have sex with men are at an increased risk of getting HIV, but the ability to prevent the acquisition and transmission of HIV has improved drastically in recent years. If you are living with HIV, anti-HIV medications can facilitate you live a normal lifespan and prevent you from transmitting HIV to your sex partners (Trea
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