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• Authenticity and Deeper Faith through Journey With Gay Son

His journey has been a catalyst for my retain journey to greater validity and I am deeply thankful for that. I now consider it one of the greatest blessings of my life to have a gay son. My own faith has blossomed and been renewed, and we are now part of a fully welcoming church where we have made wonderful recent friends.

• Briefly describe how your child first came out to you and your initial reactions.

• While on a church youth retreat, my son promised himself he would come out to us (his parents) before leaving home after lofty school. He put it off until the last minute, and came to me late at nighttime after his father had already gone to bed. He said he had something to tell me. I could see that he was shaking with fear. I told him whatever it was would not change my treasure for him. He said he “had struggled with homosexual feelings” since his early teens. As a psychologist, I had an intellectual understanding of homosexual attraction so I tried to reassure him. He stopped me and said, “This is why I haven’t told

  Help! My Son is Gay

  by Ricky Chelette, Executive Director

  “So should I push my son towards women now?”  That’s a question I often get from fathers of young men who are struggling with alike gender attractions. Dads are often devastated by the discovery of their son’s homosexuality.  But the retort to their son’s fight is not to drive him into the arms of a woman.  In fact, such a relocate could actually do more damage than good.
  But what should a dad do for his son? In a word:  connect!  I realize when saying that many dads might think, “I am related to my son. He’s my son. I’ve been around him since birth. We are fine.”  But the fact is that simply being present doesn’t mean you have any kind of emotional, intimate, connection with your son. He is a sensitive guy who needs to be spoken to in a language he can hear and understand. Proclamations of facts do petite to move his heart. He wants words dripping with raw emotion and heart-felt passion. He wants to know you, intimately, and feel the weight of your passion for him.  In many ways, he wants you to look him straight in his eyes and inform him how much you love him, how haughty you are of him, and how you deliberate he has what i
  

  Father opens up about coming out to his 3 sons: I'm still the same dad as before

  "Good Morning America" is featuring stories in celebration of Pride Month. Scott Takacs, a 46-year-old and father of three, penned a personal essay about his experience coming out as a gay man to his sons. Read about his journey below in his own words.

  Coming out at 42

  I was 42 years old when I came out to my wife. It was 15 months later that I started that matching conversation with my three boys -- 9-year-old twins and an 11-year-old.

  The whole experience is somewhat of a blur, mostly in part to the reality that at that gesture in my life there was a lot of change happening and some significant pent-up emotions. There wasn't much of a plan, no guidebook in hand, only goals that I hoped my boys would start the process of understanding and accepting their dad for whom I truly was: a gay man.

  It had been a long 15 months since coming out to my wife, an trial I unfortunately wouldn't detail as positive, fun or something I ever long to repeat. It was wrought with the happiness of finally telling the closest person in my true identity, while simultaneously ripping her wo
  
  

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